The Fear of Success

I want to speak on something that is very much related to my hesitation starting this project in the first place.

Throughout my life, I’ve had difficulty following through with different passions and interests, to pursue things fully and really commit.  When exploring this, It struck me that maybe this hasn’t been about fearing failure, but more accurately, it’s been a fear of success.

Why would one be afraid to succeed?  It sounds so counterintuitive and nonsensical.

Often we have subtle modes of influence that operate below the threshold of perception.  In a sense we unconsciously sabotage ourselves.  We know that if we fail, we can likely just go back to what it was we were doing.  Success means change.  There’s part of us that wants to play small, that likes norms and the comfort of predictability.  So maybe this fear of success is really a fear of the unknown because it requires us to surrender control towards a more certain outcome.  But when we realize we aren’t really in control to begin with, we begin to see the silliness of it all.  Control is an illusion, the rug can be pulled out from beneath us at any moment due to a wide variety of influences that the Universe can throw at us.

This project is about wearing my heart on my sleeve, it’s sharing what i’m passionate about and speaking my truth.  Discomfort is confirmation that I’m confronting the fears which have been keeping me held back.  

When faced with the prospect of having her tooth pulled, my brave 6 year daughter dropped some epic Elsa wisdom.. “Fear can’t be trusted!”

Unapologetically being myself is scary but it is the truest form of Love I can offer.

And If there’s one thing I know for sure, it’s that Love is the only thing that works.  So if Love is calling me into the unknown, I can’t not trust it.

One Comment

  • I can relate to the fear of the unknown, and change. Recently I left a comfortable place of work that I had been at for 6 years, and in the trade for 13 years to change trades completely. Another obvious obstacle was that this new opportunity was gonna have me working out of town a lot.

    Long story short I’m glad I took the plunge so to speak. It would have been easier to ride it out in a comfortable manor and stay put in Victoria, but I’m glad I faced the”fear” of change.

    I’ve faced this fear in the past, but this one was a bit different being that I’m almost 40 now, and it is inherently harder to pick it all up, and start again.

    We’ll see how it all turns out. With all the uncertainty with Covid I’m happy to say I’m lucky to still be employed through these hard times. The future looks promising.

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